Sep. 20th, 2007
On gay marriage  
Well said.

San Diego Mayor Jerry Sanders:

With me this afternoon is my wife, Rana.

I am here this afternoon to announce that I will sign the resolution that the City Council passed yesterday directing the City Attorney to file a brief in support of gay marriage.

My plan, as has been reported publicly, was to veto that resolution, so I feel like I owe all San Diegans an explanation for this change of heart.

During the campaign two years ago, I announced that I did not support gay marriage and instead supported civil unions and domestic partnerships.

I have personally wrestled with that position ever since. My opinion on this issue has evolved significantly—as I think have the opinions of millions of Americans from all walks of life.

In order to be consistent with the position I took during the mayoral election, I intended to veto the Council resolution. As late as yesterday afternoon, that was my position.

The arrival of the resolution—to sign or veto— in my office late last night forced me to reflect and search my soul for the right thing to do.

I have decided to lead with my heart—to do what I think is right—and to take a stand on behalf of equality and social justice. The right thing for me to do is to sign this resolution.

For three decades, I have worked to bring enlightenment, justice and equality to all parts of our community.

As I reflected on the choices that I had before me last night, I just could not bring myself to tell an entire group of people in our community that they were less important, less worthy and less deserving of the rights and responsibilities of marriage—than anyone else—simply because of their sexual orientation.

A decision to veto this resolution would have been inconsistent with the values I have embraced over the past 30 years.

I do believe that times have changed. And with changing time, and new life experiences, come different opinions. I think that's natural, and certainly it is true in my case.

Two years ago, I believed that civil unions were a fair alternative. Those beliefs, in my case, have since changed.

The concept of a "separate but equal" institution is not something that I can support.

I acknowledge that not all members of our community will agree or perhaps even understand my decision today.

All I can offer them is that I am trying to do what I believe is right.

I have close family members and friends who are members of the gay and lesbian community. These folks include my daughter Lisa and her partner, as well as members of my personal staff.

I want for them the same thing that we all want for our loved ones—for each of them to find a mate whom they love deeply and who loves them back; someone with whom they can grow old together and share life's wondrous adventures.

And I want their relationships to be protected equally under the law. In the end, I could not look any of them in the face and tell them that their relationships—their very lives—were any less meaningful than the marriage that I share with my wife Rana.

Thank you.

Too bad our governor doesn't have the same integrity and character. Who would've thunk the governator would turn out to be the GOP's little bitch?

Mood: verklempt
Listening to: Story of the Year - Dive Right In
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Ian Cochranelankyguy on September 20th, 2007 - 06:33 pm
Pretty damn cool.
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sisyphus238: eyesisyphus238 on September 20th, 2007 - 06:48 pm
I just saw the video on someone else's journal. I'm not sure I've ever seen a politician that emotional when taking such a stand. The man has guts.
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sisyphus238: friendssisyphus238 on September 20th, 2007 - 06:53 pm
You may have seen it also and the friend was reverend_cary32.
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The People's Exhibit Adavidology on September 21st, 2007 - 03:05 am
wow. i just saw the video.

very moving, indeed.

took balls. I left San Diego because of its Republican infestation.
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sisyphus238: Portlandsisyphus238 on September 21st, 2007 - 03:46 am
That's interesting. I can relate as I used to live in Miami, although it was years ago. Even so, I don't think it has changed much. Then again, I don't think it was infested with the same kind of repuglican conservatism that festers in San Diego. I've heard what it's like down there.
There was a guy who taught abdominals at a gym I used to belong to who moved there a few years ago. I suspect he'd fit in there even though he's as gay as you or me; he's pretty conservative and never struck me as being particularly cool, not that I'm one to talk.
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Davidthisisdavid on September 20th, 2007 - 06:49 pm
Interesting. Right here in my city.
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perry: gay yin-yangcompositeur on September 20th, 2007 - 07:17 pm
FUGGINWOW. That's one of the most compelling gay-marriage arguments I've ever heard. Hate to say it but we need more str8, married politicians taking that kind of stand to get anywhere with this.

And in big ole Republican San Diego to boot. =:-o
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hUcKiE: Huh?huckie on September 20th, 2007 - 09:01 pm
All republicans are the GOP's little bitches. I don't know why anyone would vote for someone who is a republican and expect otherwise.

The democrats may not stand for much collectively anymore, but at least there is a chance that someone calling themselves one will think for themselves on occasion.
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The People's Exhibit Adavidology on September 21st, 2007 - 03:07 am
I'm sending him a transcript of this in an email.

he won't give a shit (or rather his staff that'll just add +1 to the "you're a fucking coward" column, because he's owned by the Republican Party, but it'll make me feel better.
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danthmanes on September 20th, 2007 - 09:59 pm
Wow...makes me proud to be a San Diegan (and a little embarrassed that I didn't know this and you did :-/).
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Musikermusiker on September 21st, 2007 - 04:51 am
Intelligent, poignant, and honest... cheers to the mayor of SD!
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